John and Ann Betar eloped on Nov. 25, 1932, fleeing their
close-knit Syrian neighborhood in Bridgeport, Connecticut, and driving as fast
as they could to Harrison, New York, to avoid Ann’s father’s plans to marry her
off to a man 20 years older.
Now, as their 81st wedding anniversary approaches on Monday,
the couple, named on Valentine’s Day by Worldwide Marriage Encounter as 2013′s
“longest married couple” in America, can only laugh as they look back on the
commotion they caused.
“Everyone was hopping mad, and my wife’s aunt consoled my
father-in-law by telling him not to worry, the marriage won’t last,” chuckled
John Betar, now 102 and still driving “though not quite as fast as the day we
got married.”
Ann Betar, 98, said she “had no choice but to elope because
my father was set on me marrying a much older man, and I was 17. John was not
the boy next door, but the boy across the street who I loved,” she said.
John and Ann Betar are seen at their home in Fairfield,
Connecticut, November 20.
“He was 21 and used to drive me to high school in his Ford
Roadster,” she added.
“That’s why she married me, she loved that car,” joked John
Betar, as he sat on a couch holding his wife’s hand in the waterfront house
they have shared since 1964.
The day the couple tied the knot, the Great Depression was
in full swing, “King Kong” had yet to shake up the silver screen, and future
U.S. President John F. Kennedy was just a high school student.
They recently received the longest-marriage award from
the Worldwide Marriage Encounter.
“We have watched the world change together,” said John Betar.
“The key is to always agree with your wife.”
The couple’s house is on Long Island Sound, just a few miles
from where they raised their five children in Bridgeport. John ran a grocery
store before becoming a realtor.
Life has not always been easy. The couple lost one daughter
and their only son to cancer within the past 15 years.
“We have watched the world change together,” said John
Betar. “The key is to always agree with your wife.”
“No matter how many children you have or how old they are,
it’s the worst thing that can happen to a parent,” Ann Betar said. “But our
oldest daughter is 80 years old.”
The Betars have 14 grandchildren and 16 great-grandchildren.
Last February, representatives of Worldwide Marriage
Encounter, a Christian group based in San Bernardino, California, flew to
Fairfield to present the Betars with a plaque and other gifts. It determined
they were the longest-married living couple in the United States, based on a
review of nominations sent in from around the country.
Dick Baumbach, a group spokesman, came up with the idea for
the annual award to “encourage young couples to stay together.”
The Betars even finish each other’s sentences.
“We’ll be together forever,” said John, as Ann added softly,
“somewhere we will be.”
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